Monday, November 25, 2013

Motivation Monday - Speaking Honestly

I have always been the type of person who speaks my mind - openly and honestly.  I attribute this to my being the youngest of 6 kids.  I feel that birth order does play a role in how you learn to fit in with your family.  This then applies in how you navigate throughout all aspects of your personal and social life.   I also love taking personality tests.  I have tested myself in magazines, at seminars and in books.  I just like seeing what my answers reveal about me.   In most cases I feel that my tests are very accurate.

Speaking your mind, having a voice might be a challenge for some of you.  My purpose in this post is to encourage you to learn how and put into practice this "art" of speaking.   Truthfully, this post is to also encourage the past, I know things I've said have been offensive.  The bible tells us to "But speaking the truth in love...Ephesians 4:15"  This isn't always easy - but, it is our guide to how we need to speak.  

I have been lucky, I guess, that I always let people know how I feel when I am feeling it.  I always compliment people when warranted as well as the alternative...(hence, the offences).   I "have" to live with me - I have learned to encourage honest speech - so, I have no regrets and can let things go.  

I know no other way to encourage us than by using this past few weeks of my life as an example.  My mom has been sick, facing end of life choices.  This stage of life, brings about a clarity like no other.  When faced with, "this might be the last time I see you..." - brings about honest speech.  It is emotional, yes - embrace it.  I have been so blessed with things my mom and I have shared over the past few days.  These will be mine and her secrets and I will treasure them forever.  I have been so blessed!  Yes, end of life decisions and blessed.  The reason for this is that we are speaking honestly with each other.   Mom has shared with each of us, I am sure, special moments like I have shared with her.  She is speaking honestly and with love.  This is how she raised us, mothered us, even in her discomfort - thinking of us.  

You don't have to wait, rather don't wait till the end...if this seems hard for you to do, take baby steps.  Start with small things, thank the waitress, compliment a stranger, finally tell your neighbor you don't appreciate their dog pooping in your yard....whatever it is...just start.  I can tell you that by doing this, you will build up your self-confidence and in turn make you a stronger person.  You don't have to be mean, just speak honestly.  I can tell you from personal experience - people appreciate honesty!  Just remember to do it in "love."  

Blessings from Ringle, Wisconsin.    


Felecia Cofield said...

Hi Jacky! Another wonderful post! I love when you talk about things like this; gets me really to thinking! I need to be more 'outspoken' than so quiet most of the time. You have encouraged me to get out of my 'comfort zone'! It's not easy even to do it in love, cause I lost a good friend from that! I didn't bow to her reasoning about a matter, and now I'm the 'bad guy'. Makes for an awkward situation at times. I have forgiven her and hopefully she has me, but things are not the same. Makes me sad. But at least I didn't let her domineer over me! People I know always want me to treat them like a princess, while I sweep the ashes, so to speak! Sorry about all this, just wanted you to know that I can speak up at times! Thanks for sharing! Have a great day! Blessings from Bama!

TexWisGirl said...

oh, bless you for having the chance to converse with your mother, honestly and openly. i know you are grateful.

Justine said...

Good advice!

OurCrazyFarm said...

So true! I can still recall things that my Dad spoke to me about over twenty years ago as he was near his last days. Praying for you and your Mom today:) Just think~ soon she'll see the face of Jesus. How amazing is that??!

Faye Henry said...

Doing it in love are the magical words.. smile.. Lovely post, dear.. xo

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