Cultivating my Core - Last Word on "This"

I did a post last week about (2021 word of year) "cultivating" at my core.  Read it here:  Cultivating at my core

First:  I don't type these posts as "fishing for compliments" - however, I had some really nice ones - Thanks!  It really helped me!  

Second:  "This" is something I stuggle with.  I've been told by so many of my "friends" since writing it, that they do too.  So, the posts are for reflecton and growth not only for me, but the reader. 

Third:  Social Media is the devil...ahahah  Last month, at our virtual living estate sale, we did get some awesome prices for our client.  When customers picked up their items, they asked me "how did you come up with your prices?"  I didn't know what to say at first, then this hit me..."well, I'm dancin' with the devil here....I have to find a price that is good for my client, where Lisa and I make a bit of money and the customer still want to buy it....it's a dance."  

"This" what I struggle with is too!  

I came across, which I don't believe in coincidences, a youtube video I accidently clicked on.  It was a young lady, with an accent (Australia?) she was talking about social media issues.  I was intrigued, so I watched.  The jest of it was, she was an influencer on Instagram.  She said that "this" trying to live her "best fantasy life" was making her real life less enjoyable.  Her biggest issues were with the "instastories" and watching what other influencers were doing.  She wasn't happy with her own content, she had to keep being influenced to, buy more, wear less, share way too much of her life and it became addicting, defeating and depressing.  She said she was so addicted to the notification "ding" that she would spend hours watching who was liking her stuff.  She no longer was happy with average likes, she strived for other influencers to like her posts.  Addictions come in all packages. 

She decided to leave that venue of social media and focus on her youtube channel.  Where, she now, turns off notifications and schedules times to look at and respond.  In doing so, she has become more creative and happy.  She is mindful of her time, content and influence to a new audience.  

So, #knowyourowntruth time, I can relate to much of what she said.  A few years back, I ventured out of state to set up at a show, just because some of my favorite "influencers" were setting up too.  I thought of some of them like little celebrities, because in the resell, staging, antique, picking, blogging, writing  world...they are rock stars!  Anyway, this country bumpkin was just niave enough to think "everyone" would want to be my friend (silly me!).  I even did a LIVE where I introduced myself to one, only she wasn't that interested in getting to know me or my audience.  That was how the whole experience was.  Up here, I'm use to lines of customers waiting for me....ahaha....there was no line at my booth....I watched as others had customer's with arm loads of items leaving.  It wasn't until later in the day, a few of these "influencers" came into my booth...and they bought!  I actually had one ask, "Why is this still here?  Your prices are great!"  I said, "I guess I'm not popular." ahahah (my life's story)

O.k. that was the reflection....I had to share the "this" in a way you could see my point of view.  Now on to the important thing, growth....

So, I no longer waste time and money on that show - I do so much better up here were my audience appreciates me and I can share my awesome finds directly with them.  I don't need to keep my "best to impress" others.  

In my previous blog post a reader questioned my "I'm happier not looking at other's posts."  This did not mean blog posts.  Blogging is my meat and potato - good nourishment for mind and soul.  Some of the other social media sites are like junk food.  You crave it, over endulge and then feel like crap after....ahahah...  

I finally, feel, I can let this rest now.  You don't need to comment or leave me a message.  I am mindful of my own growth.  To use my word of the year....it was my 2020 "progression" that motivated me to really "cultivate" my core.  Now I just have to plant good seeds and catch the "weeds" early on.   

If you made it this far, thanks for reading.  My hope would be that if you find yourself struggling with "this" too, you could maybe glean some good from my experiences and use it on your journey of growth.  

Blessings from Ringle, Wisconsin.